Twenty
Exercises for Conquest of Anger
Conquest
of Anger through Repeated Reflection
on its Harmful and Negative Effects
Repeated consideration of the
losses anger inflicts on us, the unpopularity it brings, the discordance,
the disharmony and the unpleasantness it creates in us, and its various
bad results, frees us from being played on by the emotion of anger. Think
of the negative effects and the dangerous results of anger, this exerts a
restraint on the tendency to be angry.
Anger, in its stronger form as
rage, blurs the vision of man, deprives him of his good judgement, and
renders him irrational. Every outburst of anger arouses, misdirects and
depletes much of the latent psychic and vital energy. Under its spell even
a weak man obtains, as long as it lasts, surprising strength. The
after-effects are opposite and leave the person in a kind of broken-down
state.
Enormous amounts of energy are
wasted by fury and rage. Every outburst of anger adversely affects the
entire nervous system. The whole psychology and physiology of a person is
affected. The eyes become red, the body quivers, the legs and hands
tremble. Anyone would find it difficult to check a man in such a rage.
There is a sudden upheaval of energy, and its after-effects on him are
equally negative.
When one is its victim, one does
not know what one is doing or saying. One becomes highly impulsive, with
reason all gone, judgement fully distorted, and one may lose balance to
such a degree that one would not hesitate to inflict even death on the
person who is the target of that rage.
Under its influence, the
life-long friendship may come to an end, or the friendship of a very
intimate nature fall broken up. Its sway is universal. Intoxicated by it,
one becomes rash, unjust, cruel.
The negative effects of anger and
rage are not, in general, as fully noticed as they should be. Many kinds
of poisons are thrown into the blood-stream by the outburst of anger and
rage. Instances are recorded, wherein young mothers found their children
dead as a result of being fed by their breast-milk, while they were in
that state of rage.
In the light of modern
psychology, some of the diseases take their origin in anger. Rheumatism,
heart-disease, nervous-diseases, have anger as a contributory, or main,
cause. It takes several months to restore the equilibrium of the nervous
system to its normalcy. Body, mind, morals and social life are heavily
affected by a fit of anger, rage, fury.
Conquest
of Anger through Growth in Wisdom and a
Serene Contemplation of the Many Blessings of a
Non-irritable Nature
Understanding overcomes anger,
makes for harmony, happiness and success. Cultivation of the calmness of
composure is a gift of wisdom. The greater the wisdom, the lesser is the
tendency to be angry when the most provocative circumstances seek to
compel it. Understanding and wisdom develop one's capacity for adjusting
and accommodating oneself to all kinds of difficult situations and people.
For lack of a little understanding, patience, the spirit that adjusts and
accommodates, many families find themselves in discord, disharmony and not
unoften in wreckage of relationships.
In general, uncontrolled and
uncultivated human nature is too quick to misunderstand and flare into
fury without examining the validity of the reason that is provoking it.
Wisdom is enriched by reflection upon the way some of the great
personalities in human history had lost their kingdoms and inflicted
untold unhappiness on their subjects, by loss of temper. On the other
hand, a little understanding on the part of some other great personalities
in world history, saved kingdoms and prevented the loss of human lives by
the thousands.
Wisdom grants a heart full of
understanding, and thereby makes anger a rare phenomenon in the life of
the wise person. The more we increase our understanding, the more is our
capacity to adapt and adjust ourselves to any circumstance and person in
any condition, the greater the peace and the more full the mastery over
anger, and the more complete the sublimation of even the vague tendency to
be angry.
Think of the best rewards of
being not angry. This has an influence for the better on the nature that
falls an easy victim to anger. A repeated reflection upon the many
wonderful benefits that accrue to us by the possession of such virtues as
a capacity to understand, to forgive, to forget, to be patient, to be
forbearing, will promote a nature that is self-controlled, dignified,
noble, pleasing, attractive.
Conquest
of Anger through Cultivation of a
Sense of Humour and by Gaining Proper Perspectives
on Life
Most of the factors that annoy
people are just the factors that amuse and humour the wise. Try to see the
funny side of the thing that angers you, or the comical side of the cause
of anger in yourself. While you are caught unaware by rains, there is no
reason to be angry with the clouds, the next man with the umbrella, and
the rest of the world. It is time for cheerfulness, a smile, and the play
of a sense of humour. Take it with self-control, wisdom, and a gay spirit,
and you will be master of the situation that would easily try and trouble
others. Humour becomes possible when the situations are not exaggerated.
The mountain annoys us when we
are too close to it, but the moment we take the needed distance, it
becomes interesting and inspiring. To life and to each of its situations,
we need always a proper perspective.
Conquest
of the Irritable Temper by Conservation of Energies
Avoid Excessive Talk:
Unnecessary and excessive talks
deplete precious energy, weaken nerves, render the mind fickle and the
temper irritant. The greater the control over unnecessary and unprofitable
talk, the greater is one's inner strength, resource and capacity to
conquer anger. The wise, the good, the sane, are quite sparing of speech,
economical in the words they use, the feelings they express. This is one
of the secrets of the power of their soul-power.
Observe Silence for Short Periods
of Time:
People on the spiritual path
generally observe silence during some specific hours of the day, in order
to conserve bodily, emotional, mental energies, and transform them under
the impact of inner exercises into nervous strength, mental power and
spiritual progress.
Relax at Reasonable Periods of
Time:
Persons who have heavy work, and
execute it with many inner tensions, are prone to be angry, and sometimes,
even for trifles. Work has to be always executed with inner peace and with
freedom from inner commotions and perturbations. The art of relaxing, at
times, even while working intensively, should be learnt and practised. It
enables us to turn out enormous works with least expenditure of energy, in
great calmness and in an efficient manner. Man has within himself
resources far greater than the challenges and problems he encounters in
life in the work-a-day world. Every negative excitement blurs vision,
disturbs proper perspective, and renders life discordant.
Conquest
of Anger by Cooling down the Physiological
System with the Aid of a Glass of Cold Water or Cold Fruit-juice
Rage and anger generate enormous
destructive energy; it is a subtle form of fire. Perceiving the red eyes,
the changed colour on the countenance, the heated blood of the angry man,
the popular mind says, 'His blood is boiling with anger'. The word
'boiling' is not to be understood literally, but there is no other word
that can best and vigorously describe the way the emotion of anger and its
outbursts heat up the blood and the system.
The psychical heat caused by
anger not only burns up the health-preserving and rejuvenating forces
within the physical body, but also scorches the finer sensibilities and
the better qualities in man.
Psychosomatic medicine seeks to
influence and cure the diseases of the body by manipulating the mental
factors, and this is because of the fact that body influences the mind or
the emotions, and the emotions or the mind influence the bodily states. We
can use this knowledge of the interrelationship between the physiological
processes and the mental states, for effectively influencing the emotion
of anger and permitting it to subside before it succeeds in producing
unfortunate emotional disturbance and setting up unpleasant patterns of
behavioural disorder.
The moment you find the anger
seeking to rise, drink a glass of cold water or cold fruit-juice. This
cools down the physiological processes and functions in the body which are
about to gather harmful heat from the rising emotion of anger. This
cooling down of the physiological system, in its turn, affects
simultaneously the entire emotional phenomenon, and prevents the precious
psychical nature and energies from being scorched by the heat and fire of
anger.
The
Technique of Diversion for Mastery over Anger
Should you find, for any reason,
that the above method is out of your reach, in your immediate
circumstance, then try this method which has no claims to be a wholly
rational method, but as anger is an irrational phenomenon, in that it
harms the person who is its victim more than the one towards whom it is
directed, we need to adopt sometimes methods which are not in consonance
with the demands of reason, but all the same quite effective.
When you suspect that anger is
gathering storm within you, quietly start counting rapidly - one, two,
three, four, five, six, seven, and so on. By this process, the violent
river of anger, which is determined to destroy everything on its way,
suddenly becomes a tranquil lake.
There can be many variations of
this technique, each perhaps a little more profitable than the other.
Instead of merely counting one, two, three, you could gently chant, if you
like, the mystical syllable OM and add to it the word 'Peace'. This
repetition of OM, gently, slowly, and in a long-drawn manner, induces
great mental calmness. That suffix 'peace' impresses on your reflection
and contemplative consciousness the notion of boundless peace penetrating
and submerging you from all sides. This renders the entire inner nature
tranquil, and grants you thus a mastery over anger.
Breathing
Exercises Aid Control of Anger
The act and process of breathing
are intimately related to the mental states and inner emotional life. Deep
thinking renders the breathing-process long, slow, peaceful. All mental
agitations, perturbances, disturbances make the respiratory process short
and very rapid. An angry person breathes in and out rapidly. To control
the breath, is to control anger.
The right type of
breathing-exercises, when wisely practised, oxygenate the system, pacify
the nerves, control thought-processes, and render the inner being tranquil
and luminous. They supply abundant inner energy for control of all
negative, harmful, personal traits and expressions such as anger.
Weak health, weaker nerves, low
vitality render a person high-strung, irritable, choleric. The shortest
road to better nerves and fresh vitality is a few minutes of
deep-breathing, accompanied by a dynamic sense of the all-perfecting
Infinite.
Diet-control
for Control of Anger
The chemical constituents of the
foodstuffs exert a definite qualitative influence upon the nerves, the
brain, the mental and emotional activity. Therefore, select such food
which increases your capacity to control your emotions and thoughts and
give them a higher, constructive and profitable direction. Much to our own
disadvantage and cost, we underestimate the scientific facts governing the
quality of the constituents of the various foodstuffs and their effects
upon the psychology of human behaviour, happiness and evolution.
Stimulating foodstuffs excite the
nerves and the personal nature, and render the temperament irritable.
Alcohol, excessive smoking, sharp foodstuffs, render a person increasingly
susceptible to anger. When the diet is controlled, the nature improves,
and is fitted for the expression of a higher nature more in accord with
human dignity, and more in harmony with the divine Nature latent in man.
It is better to take foodstuffs that calm the nerves, grant the system
more of qualitative energy, and thus help build a peaceful mind, a serene
heart and untroubled will.
Conquest
of Anger through Control of the
Excessive Loss of Sex-Energy
Passion and anger are twins. The
former is the strength and support of the latter. When the precious
life-giving seminal energy is wasted excessively, the nerves are weakened,
the brain is affected, one becomes high-strung, nervous, and is anxiety-
and fear-ridden.
When sex-power is not conserved
and sublimated by good feelings, broad ideas, noble works, love for higher
things, into the strength of the body, the nerves, the character, the
will, the keenness of intellect, the brightness of heart, it exposes the
person to anger, fear, jealousy, and many negative mental, physical,
moral, social attitudes and states.
Sex cannot be over-indulged,
without exposing oneself to unhappy and harmful results. A little
restraint in this direction can be a continual source of inner strength,
peace, happiness. Heavy losses of semen render a person unstable in
emotional balance, unsteady in mental activity and easily irritated even
by trifles that do not touch the normal individual. It is quite natural if
such a person is restless, complaining, unappeasable, unamicable or even
offensive.
Anger is half conquered when the
power of passion is directed along channels of sublimation, refinement of
personal nature, and ennobling activity. Under the demands of a higher
knowledge and a richer experience, some cause in themselves a living sense
of the divine Reality which bears in Itself the corollary activity of the
transformation of sex into the strength of nerves, integration of
emotional nature, length of life, disease-resisting health and several
other wonderful results.
Conquest
of Anger through the Development of Virtues
By constant and diligent
cultivation of the feeling of oneness and unity of the Breath of God in
oneself, one's own inner divine Self, with the Breath of God, the inner
divine Self in all beings, one becomes a master of anger and hatred, and
an embodiment of peace, power, happiness, grace, beauty. By the
development of universal love, a forgiving nature, endurance, patience, by
elimination of all forms of vanity, pride, egoism, one establishes a grand
control over anger, and acquires a sweet, pleasing, imperturbable nature.
Let the power of restraining
yourself increase under the operations of your goodness and wisdom.
Goodness grants a serene mind and a cheerful spirit which are, better
judgement argues, far more worthy of pursuit than all the pleasures in the
world's greatest pleasure-resorts. Where anger breaks things and suffers
losses, patience bears things and wins victories. Impatience leads to loss
of temper. Be patient like the earth, gentle like the breeze, forbearing
like the tree, fragrant like the rose, sweet like the honey. Herein lies
the road to a rich, grand, compelling and inspiring personality as also to
the joy and the perfection of living.
Control
of Anger through Association with the
Noble in Nature
The company of the noble, wise,
sweet-natured people, exerts a chastening influence. Their company is a
culture in itself. It is elevating and ennobling. Observe them in the most
provocative circumstances, and mark how gentle, understanding, unperturbed
they are.
Like a rose that is not affected,
and does not withhold its smiling beauty and its inspiring fragrance,
though brought into the field of battle, thunder and destruction, these
gentle and noble ones remain calm and inspiringly gentle even in
circumstances in which the best among us would easily lose temper. The
value of association with the noble in nature, the great in soul, the
mature in wisdom and experience, and the advanced on the path of spiritual
evolution, cannot be easily estimated.
Company with the wrong type of
persons is not advisable until one attains enormous inner spiritual
strength. Seek the blessings and the culture of good company, good
association. There is much truth in the proverb, 'tell me who your friends
are, and I will tell you what you are'. Unconsciously and consciously,
people influence each other. The better the quality of the character of
the people we move with, the nobler is our own character. Later, as we
grow, we find our strong character remains uninfluenced by weaker
characters. Till then, it is always wise to search for and remain in good
company. Lessons taught by living examples around us, are far more
superior and effective than lessons gathered from books, or from teachers
who present no inspiring example of their own teachings in their own
lives.
Enormous amounts of nervous vital
and psychic energy is wasted not only by useless, loud, indecent talks,
but also by thinking negative, unhappy, meaningless thoughts and by
entertaining harmful and unnecessary feelings. Observance of silence and
control of thoughts and feelings, are disciplines essential for mastery
over personal nature and for the true happiness of living. Persons of few
words, noble thoughts and good feelings, are persons of sweet nature,
gentle character and magnetic personality. Remaining silent, as far as
possible in the daily business of life, is a great aid that strengthens
the soul and grants us easy victory over many of the negative traits and
tendencies of personal nature among which anger is the leader.
Conservation and transformation of every kind of precious inner energy is
essential for progress on the path of evolution.
Anger-Conquest
by an Assimilation of the
Vital Lessons the Great in History Impart
One of the factors that
endeavours to efface from the unconscious the deep tracks formed by anger
and rage, is the habitual reflection upon the outstanding instances in the
lives of the great who have demonstrated exceptional self-control and
peace in circumstances wherein ordinary individuals would be furious, or
fall into the trap of temporary insanity. The brave spirit with which they
have faced almost unbearable trials of life, the calm composure almost
comparable to that of inanimate nature, they had preserved even in the
most provocative situations, the wondrous heart in them that rose above
all possibilities of resentment, opposition, and outburst, should grip the
attention of any thinking person. They were humble persons who grew into
greatness in human history, experience and achievement, by that
understanding and wisdom which render the emotional nature calm and
luminous, by that spirit of endurance and self-rule which takes away from
every trial its strength, and by that courage which knows victory is
ultimately entirely for the truth, goodness, wisdom and love.
Observe the immense benefits they
have reaped by effortless self-mastery in situations that would have
thrown men of lesser patience and understanding into rage. Recollect the
instances of those persons who have lost by a single word of anger their
kingdom, wealth, honour, strength, and everything that men deem precious.
Wars begin, lives are lost, vast kingdoms are enslaved, by a few angry
words.
Man's true manhood lies in the
capacity to preserve a smiling, or at least an unperturbed, countenance
amidst the heaviest ordeals of life. Study of the lives of the truly great
adds light to our intelligence, enriches our experiences, grants strength
and colour to the positive sides of our life, and, by that very reason,
heightens the strength of one's will in the mastery of anger and other
negative emotions.
As we study the sources and the
nature of the greatness of the great, we find that they are our own better
nature at its best. They have made patent in their lives the highest of
the possibilities which are latent in us. They mirror the heights to which
our inner capacities can with sincerity and persistence of effort rise.
They constitute a continual source of strength and inspiration, and enable
us to stand on our own feet.
The
Technique of Applying Understanding to the
Situations that Cause Anger and Transforming the
Spirit of Vengeance into a Force of
Self-Development
The greater the understanding one
has, the more peaceful one is even under the most provocative
circumstances. Understanding grows by reflection on life, the nature of
its circumstances and events, and the appropriateness of the attitude to
be taken, and the course of action to be adapted, in relation to them. At
the human level evolution is not at the biological plane, but the mental
and spiritual planes. Nothing contributes so well to inner evolution as
such an understanding.
However annoying a situation may
be, it passes away. To disturb oneself, and thus disturb the environs,
over what is transient, is not the function of a person who commands
understanding. Not to lose temper even in the very trying circumstances is
to preserve a spirit of calmness that turns every trial of strength to
nothingness on one side, and on the other strengthens the will and
contributes to inner progress.
There subsists no condition which
cannot be bettered by you, one way or the other, and where such a
possibility is presently ruled out, the hand of time, that changes
everything, will help you overcome it. There is no pain, or problem, which
the spirit in man cannot endure or conquer. For every difficulty there is
a way out. Where one solution fails, another presents itself. Patience and
positive action is the solution to many problems.
This type of settled
understanding not only renders inoperative such negative emotions like
anger, but transforms the material from which they arise. To be full of
inner cheer born of understanding, in all conditions and circumstances, is
to be a true master of anger and all negative traits, and all harmful
impulses and emotions.
Every shadow has behind it a
light which by growing bigger can dissolve the shadow. To each of your
trials and problems there is a light behind. Calmly, peacefully, without
excitement, or agitation, concentrate on that light, increase it, and the
shadow disappears without draining away your energies in a resistance to
it. Man's true manhood, strength, all-inclusive mastery lie in continued
growth in inner light, understanding, and wisdom, that render the crude or
raw material of life a piece of art, a game of higher evolution, a
circumstance for the permanent experience of peace, happiness, fulfilment.
The best way to prevent anger
from rising, is to control by reason, or by love, or by understanding,
one's desire to take vengeance or to retaliate. The irrational striving in
one's own nature to obtain unjust satisfaction, or reactive pleasure, from
injuring, or insulting, or harming, the offending party, has to be
submitted to discrimination, judgement, and an objective observation of
the meanness it bespeaks of, and the dangerous consequence it brings to
oneself and to the social environs around. Never delight in the
misfortune, or the misery, or the suffering even of the enemies. That your
are on the just path is itself power, and that power grows when not spent
out, or misdirected in punishing the offender. The offender is already
judged and being punished by his own offensive act. Therefore, in social
life, there is no reason to add violence, however justifiable, to the
punishment. The law of action and instant and long-continuing reaction is
inexorable and inescapable. Enemies can be made friends. There is an art,
a way, a style and view of life. Even where enemies cannot be made
friends, it is open to us to remain unaffected by the presence of the
enemies. It is a challenge to our resources, a trial of our strength which
cannot become big enough to be invincible unless it grows by those very
trials.
Conquest
of Anger through the Technique of
Eliminating its Causes
Passion is one of the main causes
of anger. A passionate person loses his temper all too quickly, whereas a
person who has sublimated his excessive sex-energies remains balanced even
in annoying situations. A balanced mind, a cool brain, a pacified, brave
and dignified heart, are the gifts obtained by an effective control of
passion. Knowing the intimate relation between passion and anger, one
should seek to diminish the former in order to conquer automatically the
latter.
Excessive smoking, stimulating
foods and drinks, make one very irritable. The more one avoids them, or
substitutes them by healthier and wholesome articles of consumption, the
better is one's mastery over one's general nature and such irrational
emotions as anger.
Trials, difficulties, misfortunes
of life also expose one to constant resort to anger. One should learn to
strengthen one's capacity to endure trials, and by that very reason
outgrow them. The time of enduring is the time for growth in patience,
wisdom, inner power, gracefulness, maturity of action and behaviour.
Ill-health, low vitality,
sickness also arouse one easily to wasteful excitement, quick
misunderstanding, displeasure, bitter resentment. They attempt to put one
out of humour. Eliminate them by suitable methods.
The more egoistic a person is,
the more angry he is even at trifles. The greater the pride, the more
easily one falls a victim to anger. Pride is always a prelude to
unfortunate situations. When egoism, pride, selfishness are weakened by
the development of their opposite qualities of personal character and
inner nature, one grows increasingly free from all tendencies to anger,
resentment, retaliation, injustice or crude behaviour.
Conquest
of Anger by Keeping the Body Passive -
Objective Way of Anger-Conquest
Every emotion, and anger in
particular, has a psychical side and a physical manifestation. Observation
discloses that emotions are in a way ideas in action; they are thoughts in
motion; they are notions in the process of materialization or becoming
manifest forms. When we control the psychical side by the active
discrimination which rejects the rise of the desire to retaliate, or the
emergence of the quick impulse to judge, or to correct, or to make good
something in the situation which is not in order, or hurtful to our ego,
or harmful to our aims and well-being, or constitutes a threat to the
fulfilment of our goals, - then, the physical expression does not occur,
or is absent. The beneficent results ensue. Every temptation resisted.
every emotion of anger, or of hatred, conquered, adds to the soul-force,
deepens the inner strength to be the ruler of the inward situations and
outward conditions.
This is the subjective way to
control anger and wrath. Experimental observation conclusively discloses
that emotions are so very intimately related to their expression, their
material manifestation, that, should the physical body be kept passive,
the emotions cease to subsist. This is a simple method. Anger is
controlled when you never give it expression either orally or physically
through a gesture.
When anger gathers strength and
bursts into rage, the entire physical organism of the human individual is
thrown completely out of tune, balance and order. The dilated nostrils,
the rapid respiration, the flashing eyes, the redness of the face, the
loud and threatening voice, the clenched fists, the boiling blood, bear
testimony to the way the negative and destructive energies are thrown up
by anger. Wave on shattering wave of dissonance submerge the entire
physiological system.
Anger is of many degrees of
intensity. Even in milder forms it involves the entire human body in a
harmful function. The act of keeping the body still is the objective way
of eliminating the subjective basis of anger. The psychical side of anger
is controlled simultaneously with the control of the physical side.
Since the emotion of anger has
its intimate organic bodily expression, we can control it by controlling
the expression through keeping the body almost motionless. When you
suspect the rise of anger in you, instantly remain quite passive. Let it
not pervade the bodily system and determine any discordant behaviour. When
the body is still, the emotional nature becomes still. And, when the
emotional nature is still, the body stays quiet. Knowledge of this law
should keep your body passive when anger attempts to find expression.
Conquest
of the Tendency to be Angry,
by the Unfoldment of the Higher Life
Personal human nature becomes
refined and luminous when constantly subjected to the operations and the
light of the nobler capacities of the Consciousness within. Prayer
releases new energies into the system, develops the higher sensibilities
which make it difficult for the emotion of anger to rise, and also
integrates personality. The sublimating discipline of prayer and other
simple spiritual practices is very valuable in pouring into our being a
new beauty, a new strength, a new harmony, a new peace which can be broken
by no external condition or situation.
The
Higher Philosophical Self-Discipline for the
Conquest of Anger: The Subjective Method of
Conquering Anger
Emotions are subtle thoughts in
sensible action. They are the material counterparts of the mental notions.
If the mental notions are of Peace, of Love, of disinterested
contemplation of Truth, Beauty, Goodness, then the emotions too would be
peaceful, serene, beautiful, no matter how very irritating the situations
of life be. To eliminate the psychological causes of anger, to abandon the
unshakeable conviction that one is right, to dissolve strong self-sense,
pride, subtle vanity and arrogance is good, but to sustain oneself in a
grand nature to which love, light, peace, happiness, beauty are natural
and perpetual as inalienable, imperishable qualities, is a different
thing, and comes only by meditation on the Infinite.
The nature is changed, the
psychology altered, and the springs of emotions and actions are
transformed by constant reflection on the Peace, Delight, Beauty, Power,
Grace and Perfection of the divine Reality within and around oneself. By
meditation on the Stillness, Calmness, and Silence of the infinite Truth
that supports all space and everything therein by being the spaceless
dimension in space, and that sustains all forms of intelligence by being
the Light that illuminates the phenomenon and functions of intelligence,
and that dwells in all creatures as the witnessing Self of absolute
Delight, Beauty and Blessedness, not only such negative personal traits as
resentment, spirit of retaliation, vengeance, anger are eliminated, but
all the limitations of the conditioned human consciousness and life are
outgrown. When one has, through meditation, a deep-seated knowledge, and
living experience, of the one and the self-same Reality in all beings,
one's nature, instead of expressing itself in such negative emotions like
anger, manifests itself in the benevolent functions of unceasing love.
Where, then, is the ground for any resentment when the person to be
resented bears that Truth which is in oneself? How can any man be angry in
fact, when he experiences that imperishable Breath of Joy in the other,
which is in himself and is the essence of his own existence?
A
Higher Psychological Self-Discipline for
Retaining Freedom from Anger
When thoughts arise, we can, in
consciousness, stand back from them, observe them, describe them, and
direct them. Even so, when anger arises, we can stand back from it, watch
it, not accept it, and either allow it to disappear, or at once sublimate
it by an intense thought of something uplifting and sublime. The moment
anger tries to rise, stand back from it; be not overcome by it, but
overcome it.
Problems arise when one
surrenders oneself to it, when one identifies oneself with it, becomes it.
When an emotional young man named John attends a motion-picture, Tarzan
the King of the Jungle, he identifies himself with the hero to such a
degree that when the hero boxes a beast, he too moves his hand as if he
himself is boxing the beast. This is a case of self-identification. When
anger arises, most of the people at once identify themselves with it,
become it, and thus, completely oblivious of themselves, lose all
self-direction and do most irrational things. The moment one identifies
oneself with anger, one has no more control over it, and it expresses
itself in spite of one's efforts to the contrary. Remain uninvolved in
anger. Stay as a witness of the phenomenon of anger, watch it, be someone
other than itself, and turn it out. When you stand back from it, in
consciousness, you have the right perspective, the needed distance from
it, and you are in a position to control it. The capacity to remain
emotionally unidentified with anger, to be its witness, has to be
developed more and more, by higher psychological self-observation and
self-discipline.
Conquest
of Anger through the Development of a
Strong Will, Character and Spiritual Nature
Anger can be controlled and
conquered by the development of the strength of the will. Will, nerves and
the mind grow strong with the growing gentleness of spirit and sweetness
of nature. Weak will is one of the causes of anger. the weaker a person
is, the more angry he is. By the development of a strong will that enables
man to master situations, he can say 'no' to the rising anger within
himself. He has the will-power to refuse an acceptance to the emotion of
anger as it seeks to rise.
Anger is always a sign of
weakness, and betrays that there is something false and discordant in
ourselves. Wrath is the weapon of the weak; the strong have other ways of
fulfilling their aims. The rivulet makes too much of noise. The great and
big river is calm, dignified, grand, majestic. Evidence a character which
is free of discordant elements and disharmonious energies.
In truth, anger is psychological,
and therefore an outer, changing, alterable, conquerable phenomenon;
whereas the inmost divine Consciousness in your is unchanging, ever
triumphant, invincible Reality of endless beauties. In it you are a
boundless ocean of Peace, Joy, Perfection. By a consciousness of it render
your outer life a music of power, grace, balance and beatitude.
From folly, error, vice and
ignorance, anger takes its ugly rise. Having shaken the victim by its
outburst, it leaves him in remorse and repentance. It is within one's
power to seek, and strive, to eliminate from one's life folly, error,
vice, and ignorance.
Avarice, greed, unnecessary and
too many desires are also the powerful causes of anger. Such desires are
difficult to fulfill; and, the more they are fulfilled, the more they
grow. The more they grow, the more the problems, the frustrations and
failures whose crowning effects are anger, distemper, revengefulness,
dangerous blunders. Ungratified desires arouse unsocial and harmful forms
of resentment, anger, behaviour and action.
Too high a notion of one's own
importance, and too high an estimation of oneself, make one very sensitive
to even the least criticism and most honest judgement from others. Such
persons not only resent, but also rise into a rage. Holding on to one's
own opinions as ultimate truths, inability to see that there is no
finality in one's own standpoint and that one's viewpoint can be wrong, at
least when seen in relation to other points of view held by men of richer
and better experience and equipment, - all these are the springs of angry
debates, hot words, hot blood, corroding emotions, poisonous feelings,
anger, wrath and rage.
Experience
of Identity with the Infinite Love and
Peace for Anger-Conquest
The Consciousness in man is, in
its deeper levels, so very simple, yet it is the projector, and the
bearer, of endless complex mechanisms and phenomena. It not only
photographs that which our physical eyes see, or the mind can visualize,
but produces the effects of that perception in all our physical organism
and in our outer life. We take on the characteristics of that on which we
contemplate, even as unconsciously we acquire the traits of those with
whom we habitually live. The unconscious identifies itself with all that
we behold, think, feel, experience, and expresses its results in our daily
character and conduct. This fact should persuade us constantly to
visualize, and contemplate upon, the wondrous infinite Presence of Love
and Peace that fills all space, all manifestation, and that dwells at the
very centre of our inner awareness. The more this is done, the more is our
nature identified with that absolute Peace and Love, and the more it is
freed of the forces that constitute human limitations and the unconscious
being.
In all perception an unconscious
or automatic self-identification with the thing perceived is implied.
Therefore, to perceive the infinite Reality is the greatest blessing, and
since it is not visible, we are required in the preliminary stages of
spiritual evolution, to visualize it after the descriptions of it
presented by men who have experienced it. When you feel a little
irritated, or disturbed, or angry, close your eyes and just visualize the
vast clear blue sky. Instantly you find some kind of peace being poured
into you. Instead of visualizing the blue sky, or some inspiring natural
scenery, or the vast ocean, you can better visualize the one,
all-pervading, all-peaceful, all-beautiful Presence of the Divine. This
exercise renders the intelligence and nature subtler and sharper, and thus
capacitates it to feel the Truth of truths that the infinite Divinity is.
- Swami Omkarananda
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